*Confrontation With Kindness*

In marriage, there will be many occasions when we must confront our spouses about something they've done that we don't like. It might be a slight concern or annoyance. It could be a larger, more serious offense.

 

Whatever the problem, we need to be able to challenge our spouses in a healthy, healing manner. This is a skill that can be learned and practiced, and it is very important. Some of the greatest damage to marriages occurs when a couple is trying to resolve a dispute.

 

Usually the problem isn't the confrontation itself. It's how we do it that causes the most problems.

 

This is where the Bible has some important words for us. In Ephesians, Paul writes that we should be "speaking the truth in love" (Eph. 4:15). Proverbs 3:3 says "Do not let kindness and truth leave you."

 

In any confrontation, we must balance truth with kindness and love. Truth is powerful, but by itself, it can be dangerous. I've known people who pride themselves on how truthful they are. I've known these same people to practically butcher others with their harshness and insensitivity.

 

Truth must never travel alone.

 

But in the same way, love by itself-without truth-can be little more than spineless, blubbering goodwill. Some people take pride in how loving or non-judgmental they are, but how loving is it to withhold truth that might help another person? Where is the kindness in refusing to keep someone from harm?

 

Real love must contain truth. Love is putting your arm around your spouse and graciously speaking the truth with genuine concern and affirmation.

 

Any marriage with an imbalance of truth or love is unhealthy.

 

So let's say you and your spouse commit to balancing these two virtues. What then?

 

The next step is to pay attention to timing. "In your anger, do not sin," Paul writes in Ephesians 4:26. Some spouses have extra-volatile clashes because they don't deal with issues in a timely manner. They let frustration and offenses build up, then they explode with anger.

 

The longer you wait to discuss problems and concerns, the more you ensure a big blowup in the future. It's much easier to sin-to be too harsh, to exaggerate, to insult, to cause emotional wounds-when your anger spikes.

 

And the longer you wait to talk things out, the more opportunity the enemy has to introduce unhealthy thoughts and feelings into the relationship.

 

Before the next disagreement arises, commit to do two things for your spouse. First, promise to speak the truth but to do it with kindness and love.

 

Second, promise to bring things up in a timely fashion, before an offense has time to fester.

 

Not only will this commitment improve communication right now, but it will protect your marriage against explosive conflicts in the future.

 

Blessings!

Christianity...lack of Loyalty!!

There is more loyalty among thieves than brothers.SMH There is a code of honor in the street that the CHURCH need to adopt. LOYALTY!! The betrayal & lack of loyalty that i see among brothers & sisters in the church is heartbreaking! This is a virus that must be extracted!! Just because your a christian it doesn't mean you lose your standards & loyalty. If you have an issue with my brother then YOU have an issue with me! You will not disrespect my brother & think it's ok with me! This is street honor 101!! You go to war with my brother then you Go to war with me! MAN I don't want to be a part of a church where there is no UNITY or LOYALTY!!! Where your own brother betrays you!! That's Weak & Wack..It reminds me of peter... When it was time to stand up for Jesus he denied Him instead!! That's where it all started.. The lack of Loyalty! Don't call me your brother if you don't have my back when it's time to fight!! Don't call me your brother & you embrace my enemy! SMH. I'm tired of this SOFT, POWDER PUFF, Lack of loyalty that I'm seeing among the church family. Let's MAN UP & have you each others back!! It's not a good feeling if you see your sister or brother embracing the one that tried to kill you... That is a turn coat & it's betrayal!!! I don't know how the street can get this principle but you church folk don't get it!! SAD! OUR strength is in our numbers. We must UNIFY!! All I can give an account for is me.. You're not gonna do my family wrong, turn around & be buddies with me.. I will whoop yo tail..LOL. Heey! I'm just saying what somebody somewhere need to be saying to somebody!! I'm Good. I'm just speaking the truth. STOP BETRAYING one another!! Being a christian does not make you soft.. It should make us stronger because we are 1 BODY. WE are freaking FAMILY MAN!! #TEAM KINGDOM! #AMEN!! HEY, Hey!! Take it how you want to take it! I'm not clarifying nothing! BE LOYAL & Don't embrace your brothers enemy before they do you in too!#AMEN! Hey... I have no beef with nobody! I'm not upset with anybody!! If anything I'm upset at watching church folk betray each other with a kiss! It's sad when you can depend on your HOOD brothers over your christian brothers & sometimes even your blood brothers & sisters! Get it together!! Ok saints I've done enough blogging for a week..lol #Realtalk it's time to stop using christianity to cover up for our disloyalty. I'm Out!!!!

Black On Black Love--Chocolate Pleasure

My knees encounter soft resistance; I have found the bed,
the place where we shall consummate our devotion. I climb
onto the bed, kneeling, and gently place you upon it. Our
kiss never breaks. I lower myself onto you, taking your
head tenderly into my hands.

Your passion is intense and overwhelming. You feel it raging
within you, shutting out all other feelings, anything that might
distract you. Your passion has turned you into a wild, insatiable
animal, mad with desire. You've lost all sense of time or place.
All you know is the man in your arms is the sexist thing you've
held in a long time, and you simply *have* to have your way
with him...

With both hands you grip the back of my head and pull it
downward, until your eager nipples contact my mouth.
A moan escapes your lips at the first touch. I begin to
circle your nipple with my tongue. You taste so good to me.
My own passion is strong, and I give in and take your breast
into my mouth, sucking hard on the nipple.

Your grip on my head tightens, and your moan becomes
louder. Our legs intertwine, and you pull yours back, pulling
my legs closer to you. I love your breasts so much. They've
always turned me on, and now that I've finally got them, I
have no intention of ignoring them. I raise my head a bit,
drawing your breast up, off your chest. I grip it with both
hands, squeezing and massaging it. I'm in ecstasy. You're
so beautiful, your body satisfies me so completely, I think
I want to stay in bed with you forever. I want to worship
your body, want to do everything I can to please you.

Your moaning stops suddenly, then starts again. Again it
stops, then continues. I realize you're beginning to cum,
and my heart gladdens. I love it when I make you cum.
Seeing you come, feeling you in the throes of orgasm, is so
enjoyable. Your moan gets lower, becomes more drawn out.
Your orgasm has peaked, now you're coasting down the other
side. Your whole body feels warm and tingly, but way down,
deep inside your loins, you feel a stirring, a longing. You've
felt it before, but then you've never had me available. You
know what you want, and you know what to do.

Your hands press my head, gently but firmly, down away from
you. I know what you want. I know what you need. At your
urging I move my head downward, kissing the supple skin of
your belly as I go. I tongue your sexy little belly button, and
another moan escapes, unintended. I drift downward, downward,
until I come to the first folds of your special area. My tongue
snakes out and caresses you, and I feel a shiver of delight rush
through you. You taste very sweet to me, and I savor it. I love
everything about you, especially your special area. I lower my
head and suck on your clitoris, your special spot.

*Embraced*

You are, the air I breathe,
The water that quench my thirst,
The substance that fills my hunger,
The eyes, that empower me to see,
The ears, that enables me to hear.

Life without you, would have no meaning,
Life without your touch, would have no feelings,
Life without your kisses, would taste sour,
Life without your essence, would lead my being to wonder lost,
Life without your being, would make mine to perish,
Life without your love, would slowly suffocate, the air out my soul.

That's why I cherish
Every rise of the sun,
Every moonlit night,
Every hour,
Every minute,
Every second of life,
We spend as one...

*MindFuck

It’s so easy to satisfy your body, but I would rather stimulate your mind
Turn you on with my words and send chills down your spine
Sounds intriguing to you, then step right up
Let me get you off without us ever having to touch
You see it’s not about lying or playing games
It’s the way I penetrate your thoughts and seduce your brain
Use words that are meant to arouse and excite
Form pleasurable visions meant to entice
Electrifying is the way to explain how we converse
Verges on obscene or verbal intercourse
It’s not just talking dirty, nor is it phone sex
Deep manipulation of yourcerebral cortex
Massage your inner thoughts and release your inhibitions
Guaranteed to get you off extreme pleasure is my mission
Bringing you to a point where your are ready to bust a nut
Hope you enjoyed the ride you’ve just been mind fucked

Taste Like Candy

lay upon my table
may I feast on you
the sight of you
the smell of you
enhance my needs
rejuvenate my aura
hormones begin raging
thoughts turn carnal
mouth slowly watering
nose slightly flaring
tongue slowly flickering
licking my lips
needing your lips
the sight of your pearl
complete my fetish
that growing need
to praise your crown
as I lick you down
juices overflowing
body steadily shaking
mucles tightening
heart starts racing
breath is getting tighter
as your toes curl
I devour your pearl
hands grabbing my head
as you rattle the table
with a final kiss
I send you to bliss
thank you my QUEEN
may I lick you clean
from bottom to top
never missing nook
or cranny from the crack
of your toes to the
middle of your back
to belly button to the pits
your wrists to your elbows
kisses and licks
to your ears
to the lids of your eyes

TO YOUR HAIRLINE !!!!!